As stated by the NHS, in the UK alone, 1 in 7 couples have problems getting pregnant naturally, and will have to resort to assisted reproduction to achieve pregnancy.
This figure speaks to the relative frequency with which infertility-related problems occur today. In this sense, one of the problems that makes more and more women and couples resort to assisted reproduction to achieve pregnancy is the delay in which they seek pregnancy.
As we have told you, although in many occasions or situations in our day-to-day lives the search for economic or emotional stability prevails, the truth is that the older a woman gets, the less likely she is to achieve a natural pregnancy. Advancing age brings with it a decrease in both the number and quality of eggs that a woman produces in each cycle, so that as age advances, the chances of achieving pregnancy are reduced.
In this sense, one of the main objectives that we set ourselves at infertility clinics, apart from obviously helping our patients to achieve pregnancy, is that little by little assisted reproduction is normalised and is simply considered as any visit to a medical specialist when we have a disease. In fact, since 2009, infertility has been declared by the World Health Organisation as a disease included in the health system.
Why do many couples not want to talk about infertility?
As we have seen, infertility-related problems are very common nowadays. We should understand and see it as something relatively normal that, by delaying the age of motherhood, our own biology plays against us and we should put ourselves in the hands of specialists.
But it is true that there have always been certain myths or taboos about infertility that have made it a subject that is embarrassing or embarrassing to talk about.
For example, did you know that, contrary to common belief, infertility affects men and women equally? There has always been a mistaken belief that fertility problems were associated with women. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nowadays, around 40% of the cases we treat in our clinics are associated with men, with another 40% affecting women and 20% of the cases we find in which both partners show some pathology.
Another factor is the feeling of guilt that many patients feel when they are diagnosed. Often the couple is not understood without children, so when these do not arrive, a certain feeling of guilt appears. Questions such as “Why us?, “What have we done wrong?, “Is there something wrong with me? are frequent at this time.
It is true that, on many occasions, patients are faced with misinformation on the subject. This lack of knowledge about the real reasons, information about treatments and, above all, knowing their diagnosis from a specialist helps them to understand the situation much better and to realise that this feeling of guilt is wrong. It should simply be seen as a medical problem, and as such, in the vast majority of cases we will find a solution together with the specialists.
Talking openly about infertility, the first step to normalising the situation
One of the tips we always give our patients is to talk openly about their situation and, if possible, to do so with other couples who are in the same situation as them.
Sharing their feelings, their questions and knowing how other couples who have gone through the same situation as they have experienced it will make them realise that there are many other people in the same situation as them.
Letting themselves be advised, knowing other stories and being able to talk freely about the subject will gradually make them see it as something normal.
The same applies to our consultations. Our specialists are at your disposal to answer any questions you may have, whether about your problem, how to deal with it, questions about the treatment… we want you to leave the consultations with all the information you need at home as you take the next step towards your pregnancy.
The importance of Councelling Support in assisted reproduction treatments
The psychological factor can be a key factor before and during treatment to achieve pregnancy. We must understand that when a woman or a couple receives the news that pregnancy is not coming because they have infertility problems, there are many emotions to deal with, especially in the case of women.
It is important to face the treatment as calmly as possible. In this way we will avoid anxiety or nerves and we will face it with a much better state of mind.
Equally important are the emotions you go through during each stage of treatment. All of them have an emotional charge that needs to be managed and for this, on many occasions, some help is needed.
Our counsellors support our patients during treatment to help them understand what treatment involves. They also work with you to consider how it may affect you and those close to you, now and in the future. For this reason, all our treatment packages include two counselling sessions, to support your emotional wellbeing as well as your clinical care.
You can find all the information about our Counselling Support service here.
Please, do not hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or if we can be of any help.